There is an appropriate metaphor for praise of children: "praise, like penicillin, must not be used at will.". The use of powerful drugs has a certain standard, need to be careful, the standard includes time and dose, because it may cause allergic reactions.
1 boast specific not boast all
Baby well, this is really a praise for parents. In the eyes of the parents, the child's every detail of growth is worthy of admiration and praise - the baby will laugh, the baby will stand up, the baby will jump, the baby to speak...... It is in this constant surprise, parents have been accustomed to say "good" to the children!" "Good"!" Such an evaluation, and even a gentle "ah" are full of appreciation of the tone.
Parents casually, praise, may won't be aware of how negative influence, until one day, found that children become afraid of failure, not the slightest frustration
Always a general recognition of the child, for example, you are awesome, will let the children know what to do. Maybe the child is served a meal, mother and cheerfully said "good boy, you are awesome, might as well tell him" thank you end jobs to help his mother, my mother very happy. " Specific praise will make it easier for children to understand, and know what to do in the future, how to work
2 boast of hard work
"You are so smart!" -- a comment from a parent. Parents of children each a progress if the use of "smart" to define, the result can only is let the children feel that good results and clever equated, hand he will become "conceit" rather than "confidence", on the other hand, they face challenges will take evasive, because do not want to appear clever is not consistent with the results of
3 boast of the fact that personality
"Good baby" this is a typical "boast a personality", parents will not inadvertently put it on the mouth. But "good" is a concept of nothingness, if the child was such a big hat, he instead of pressure
Adults too, when leaders continue to praise you, began to be complacent, but slowly will feel the pressure, even don't want to do it perfectly, so as to get the opportunity to gasp for breath.
If parents always praise "exaggerated", the child will have pressure, feel they don't deserve such praise. What will they do? That is when you just praise him, he will make you a headache, to show "sincere""
